Divorce where children are involved can be an ugly process in New Jersey. Alternatively, a divorce involving children can be carried out in an atmosphere of cooperation and open communication that focuses on the importance of maintaining a semblance of family structure following a divorce. Regardless of how parents feel about each other, they typically share concern for the well-being of their children. How well children fair in a divorce depends largely on the structure of child custody and the continued relationship between the children and both parents.
Contentious child custody battles seldom have positive outcomes for anyone, particularly children. If one parent gets sole or primary custody, the relationship with the other parent will almost inevitably suffer. Some of the negative consequences of this situation are an increase in the likelihood of the child to experiment with drugs or alcohol or to get in trouble with the law.
If parents can maintain a cordial relationship throughout the process and engage in open and honest discussions regarding the family structure following a divorce, everyone, particularly the children, will benefit. The goal is to create two successful families who can still function and communicate for the benefit of the children. If parents truly can't get along, keeping the conflict to themselves will keep the focus on their issues and reduce the chance of negatively affecting the kids.
Reaching an agreement regarding child custody can be difficult. If parents cannot come to an agreement a knowledgeable family law attorney can be a valuable asset in New Jersey. A lawyer can review the family situation and assist a client in determining a child custody solution that may reduce the chance of future conflict.