Divorce is a trying time for many people, so preparing for the emotions that come with it is key. Some people are surprised by how many emotions they feel during the process. Spouses who initiate the divorce may assume that they will feel only relief. Happiness might be a primary emotion, but others might come, too.
The emotions that you feel might not always be directly related to the end of the marriage. Some are because of the changes that come once the marriage is over. These emotions might be rather confusing as you end a marriage:
Loss of support
If you’ve always relied on your spouse for emotional or financial support, you may be worried about how you’re going to fare now. Taking the time to set up your budget and plan for getting the emotional support you need may help reduce these feelings.
Loss of traditions
You may not be sad that the marriage is ending, but you may realize that you’re sad about the loss of some traditions you’ve come to enjoy. To combat this, you can create new traditions that mean something to you. If you have children, you can include them in finding new ones. This is your chance to find ways to truly enjoy your new way of life.
Anyone who’s ending a marriage should ensure they’re preparing for the legal process. This can help to reduce the stress because you know what you’re facing. Working with someone familiar with divorces that involve the same matters as yours can also be beneficial since you can pull from their knowledge as you decide what you’re going to do.