Divorce is a stressful life event, especially for the children who may find it difficult to adjust to a new way of life. The drastic change in the family structure can affect their psychological well-being and make them feel vulnerable and emotional. As parents, you need to do all that you can to protect them from the negative effects of divorce.
It all boils down to how you help them adjust and make sense of everything. Here is what you need to do.
Communicate and listen to them
Your children may have questions or fears about the future. You need to listen and understand their concerns and, most importantly, communicate to them about what will change. Do so in a positive, reassuring tone and let them know that they have nothing to do with the turn of events.
Create a positive atmosphere around the children
Despite the differences between you and your ex, do not let them play out in front of the children. Remember, they still look up to you as their parents, and it can be confusing for them if you both start arguing or fighting in their presence.
Do not badmouth your ex either or try shifting blame. It might be too much for the children to take.
Try and maintain their regular schedules
While divorce may mean that children will have to shuttle between two households, it is advisable not to disrupt their daily schedules. Having a consistent way of doing things across both homes will go a long way in helping the children transit into life post-divorce. Most importantly, stay involved in their lives just like you were before separating.
Ultimately, it is a team effort between you and your co-parent. Establishing a parenting plan that works to safeguard the children’s welfare and putting their interests first should be your main priority.